I live in my head. Sometimes it’s a good place to be, sometimes it is not. I tend to be an over-thinker and when you think on things too much, you tend to make problems much bigger than they really are.
It has taken me years to figure out what my mind needs every day to feel peaceful and positive.
Be nice to yourself. Like, out loud.
Affirmations – how New Age, right? WRONG. Think about it – parenting advice tells us that we have to speak to our children in a respectful manner to help to build up confidence. WHY aren’t we talking to ourselves to build up confidence? I know, it feels totally awkward but it gets easier. I promise. When I wake up in the morning, I turn off my alarm, take my vitamins and tell myself 3 things I like about myself. Every. Day. Need Help? Set your alarm to have your three affirmations as the name – you will see them as soon as you wake up. Repeat them out loud (or in your head) for a couple of moments. It makes a world of difference.
Find some physical activity that you like. ANYTHING.
My thing is walking my dogs. Every morning (weather permitting) I walk my dogs anywhere from 1-2 miles before work. Some days I jam out to music and some days I just think – read: talk to my dogs like a psycho. But they are so cute!!!
I get so stuck on my to-do list or, when that list is empty, mindless cell-scrolling or T.V. watching. Engage with people. Your spouse, your kid, a friend, a neighbor – FIND SOMEONE. 20 minutes a day at least. Have a conversation, hug, hold hands, laugh.
Seriously, stop looking at your phone (or any screen) 30 minutes before bed and try to get 7-8 hours of sleep. I use my Fitbit to track my sleep patterns and, even when I lay down for 8 hours, I am only getting about 6.5 hours of actual sleep. Don’t plop on the couch after work and nap. Get up and get moving – take a walk, wash the dishes, clean a room. Get yourself in the habit of sleeping well. Your psyche will thank you.
Foster your creativity.
Write, draw, paint, dance, read, play music, sing, learn an instrument, knit, – WHATEVER. Just do something creative. It will calm your soul. I love writing and how I feel so much lighter after I have emptied my brain on to a piece of paper. I also love singing – much to everyone’s dismay.